April 9, 2011
Focus Kids - Make A Plan
In establishing with your child what exactly a ‘plan’ is, you might like to explain that a plan is like a set of blue prints, which allow you to see what you need to do in order to get where you want to be – a bit like like a three point plan to brushing your teeth. Simple!
But imagine you want make a plan to achieve something more complex, like say, building a castle. Before a single stone is laid, you need to think carefully about your plans. How big will the castle be? How many towers? Will there be a dungeon? You need to think through the materials you need, before you can make a proper start.
The process of creating and then following blue prints ensures that you will have a strong castle that has been built how it was envisaged. But you can’t hope to achieve your goal if you DO NOT PLAN.
So, encourage your child to think about their destination, the point they want to get to, and work back from there, to where they are now. Because working backwards allows them to foresee obstacles that may need to be overcome.
You’ll have no doubt noticed in your childs self esteem, that often children don’t start things because they feel it’s too big, too difficult, too hard, takes too long… or the perennial ‘but I’m too tired’ (aka ‘Can’t be bothered’)!
We want your child to become a ‘Do’ kind of person, so instead of using too and putting obstacles in the way of their achievement, things actually become mentally ‘do-able’.
A really positive benefit of thinking clearly about what they need to do to achieve their goals, is that it creates a clear set of bite sized chunks which makes the goal seem that much closer and more within their grasp.
I can confidently say, that by putting this into practice, you WILL give your child great confidence and power in believing – for themselves - that they CAN achieve things that at first might have appeared either daunting or totally beyond them.
What parent doesn’t wish for that liberating character trait in their children?
Have them learn the phrase ‘If you fail to plan, you plan to fail’ and get planning goals with them!
What’s truly inspiring about these techniques is that they will help to give your child greater power in their lives and help them to discover the amazing potential that lives within them, for the rest of their lives.
An adventure unlike any other, my new child self confidence boosting website makes this process fun, using motivational, animated characters who deliver clear and positive video messages direct to your inbox, on a weekly basis.
The Legends of Kizan sets kids on an adventurous and interactive path to self-belief and discovery, whilst helping them to develop the mindset to face life’s challenges in a positive way.
I very much hope that you will take the time to explore the free resources the site has to offer.
Here’s to Healthy, Successful and Fulfilled Children
My name is Lee Mainprize and I am really glad to have had this opportunity to make a difference to your child development.
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July 12, 2010
Do You Need To Improve The Way You Feel About Yourself?
It is vital to our well being that we feel confident in ourselves, including the way we look on the outside. When we are not happy with ourselves, it is easy to feel down and depressed. However, when we are confident, the opposite is true and we generally feel quite happy. Although it is not always easy to feel great about yourself, it is important to try to do so. If you need to lift your spirits, this article may be able to help.
It is very common for people to feel bad about the way that they look. In some cases, this can be a part of the cause of serious depression or a poor mental state. No matter what you look like, it is important to realize your own beauty.
A lot of people do not realize that confidence goes a long way. When you are confident in yourself, other people sense it and that in itself is enough for you to be beautiful in your eyes and in the eyes of others. Accept yourself as you are and be proud of it. Do not worry about fitting into some mold or looking like some actress from a movie.
Some people may require additional help when it comes to finding their self esteem. If you are particularly harsh on yourself or feeling very depressed, contact a psychiatrist. It may help to meet with a professional and find the root of your depression.
There are times when genuine problems cause dips in self confidence. These may include being too skinny or overweight or having acne.
If your acne is bothering you, you are probably wondering about how to get rid of acne. The best thing you can do for yourself is to contact a dermatologist or a doctor. They can give you the advice you need. Also, be sure to engage in a healthy lifestyle. In some cases, poor health causes acne and in many cases, it makes it worse.
If you are very overweight and it is affecting your health, you should do something about it. You should not concern yourself with issues, such as how to lose tummy fat, but rather, you should be thinking about how to improve your health.
Worrying about how to reduce tummy fat will not get you anywhere. Instead, figure out how and if losing any weight will positively affect the state of your health and the quality of your life. If it really will improve your life, you should focus on having a healthy lifestyle and not about how much you weigh.
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When I was a sophomore in high school, I registered for a substance abuse class. At that age, I did not understand that alcohol abuse in truth was a sub classification of drug abuse. While taking this class and learning more about drug and alcohol abuse and especially about alcohol side effects, I read a lot about Alcoholic Anonymous, their meetings, how their programs have twelve steps, and how successful the Alcoholics Anonymous recovery program has been for people all through the world. I also learned a lot about alcohol rehabilitation and the different alcohol rehab clinics that are normally available to people who engage in hazardous drinking.
Detrimental Results That are Linked to Alcohol Addiction and Alcohol Abuse
Some of the detrimental end results associated with alcoholism and alcohol abuse that I learned about in this class undeniably alarmed me. The ruined lives and frequent serious issues experienced by most alcohol addicted individuals made me feel like I never wanted to drink alcohol when I became old enough. Stated differently, I did not want to face the disaster and destruction that alcohol addicted individuals almost always go through.
Let this sink in for a moment. What fifteen-year-old individual wants to face premature death due to his or her drinking behavior? What teenager wants to become so out-of-control regarding his or her drinking that ingesting alcohol becomes the object of one’s life? What teenager wants to go to one of the local alcoholic rehabilitation centers to deal with alcohol-related difficulties before he or she becomes twenty-one?
What adolescent wants to experience alcohol withdrawal symptoms when he or she tries to stop drinking? Why would a person engage in drinking to such an extent that it would cause problems in every area of his or her life? Drinking later in life after an individual has a career, a family, and develops personal responsibilities makes sense. But why would a teenager want to sacrifice his or her education, employment, finances, and relationships for a life that centers on excessive drinking?
These issues were so significant that I discussed some of them in class during the school year. What was downright unbelievable to me was the number of students who basically didn’t care about the damaging results of excessive drinking that I talked about. It was almost as if they couldn’t be troubled with reality and how these results can demolish their lives. For the first time in my life I started to understand a saying that my grandfather used to say to me all through my younger years: you can lead a horse to water but you can’t force it to drink.
It’s Important, Beneficial, and Liberating to Remove Yourself From the Unhealthy and Debilitating Consequences of Drug and Alcohol Abuse
And even at my young age, I also began to understand how beneficial, enlivening, and important it is in life to keep yourself from the unhealthy and destructive results of alcohol and drug abuse. And realizing this also led to some communication problems, conflict, and commitment issues in the friendships and relationships I established in high school.
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Jesse had a very difficult time keeping a job. If truth be told, due to her laziness and lack of drive, she was out of a job far more often than she was in a state of employment. And when she did land a job, she had a particularly hard time getting to work in a timely manner, she often got less than positive performance evaluations, and she called off sick so frequently that she typically got fired four or five weeks after she started working. To no one’s surprise, one of the results of Jesse’s less than optimal work track record was the fact that she was virtually penniless from day-to-day.
Despite Jesse’s less than stellar work track record and financial lack of attention, on the other hand, somehow she made it a point to drink in a hazardous and abusive manner most of the time. Not surprisingly, her abusive and excessive drinking also resulted in a host of relationship issues over the years.
Based on her hazardous and excessive drinking, it came as no big surprise when Jesse received a second DWI. When she went to court, the judge told Jesse that her alcohol-related behavior was irresponsible and, as a consequence, he was going to sentence Jesse to serve seven months behind bars.
Time In Jail To Think About The Damaging Consequences of Abusive Drinking
During her time while locked up in jail, Jesse was expected to learn more about alcohol facts, about the negative consequences of irresponsible drinking, and she was required to get alcohol treatment. The magistrate stressed the fact that unless Jesse receives professional alcohol counseling and discovers how to live an alcohol-free life, she will most probably be spending a lot more time in jail.
Jesse said that she understood what the magistrate was proclaiming but she still believed that placement in the county jail was not the right decision. The magistrate saw things in an entirely different way and stated that it was his job to keep alcoholics off the streets who drive under the influence and who get arrested for a DWI. To give credibility to this assertion, the magistrate quoted some long-standing, highly researched alcohol statistics that underscored some of the negative outcomes that are related to hazardous and irresponsible drinking.
Although Jesse comprehended that she drank irresponsibly, she never thought that she was alcohol dependent. So it was a real shocker when Jesse began experiencing symptoms of alcohol withdrawal just about four hours after going to jail.
To manage her alcohol withdrawals in a safe and sound manner, Jesse was transferred to a rehab facility for alcohol detox and then returned to the city jail. While locked up in the local jail Jesse was given a mental health assessment for her depression and was given alcohol rehabilitation but due to the fact that she received this counseling as something that was imposed upon her, she did not take ownership of her hazardous and excessive drinking.
When her time behind bars was finished, the judge without vacillation announced to Jesse that she would be under rigorous surveillance and would be mandated to take periodic blood alcohol tests.
Jessie’s Abusive Drinking Stops Her From Living in a Responsible and Productive Manner
After hearing how Jesse failed to take ownership of her drinking problem and how she unwillingly followed the rehab modus operandi while in the municipal jail, the judge knew that it was essentially a matter of time before he would be seeing Jesse once again in court about her hazardous drinking behavior. As the magistrate thought about Jesse’s circumstance, he couldn’t help but think about how some people never use common sense and discover how to live in an accountable and productive manner.
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April 12, 2010
A Smart Aunt Saves The Wedding Day In High Style
Don’t you just hate all those skinny supermodels we all see in women’s magazines? Yet people hold up these women with their abnormal bodies as paragons of beauty. Well, we’ve had it with that sort of stuff in our family. All it took was our cousin’s wedding to set us straight.
Our family genotype - that means the way our genes make us out to be - runs toward larger-than-average sizes. Both the men and women in our family tend to be tall and large in stature. We think it comes from all those farmers in our family tree!
The whole thing came to a head when our cousin got engaged to her high school sweetheart. We’re a close family, so she wanted as many people as possible to be in her wedding. We were beginning to think there’d be nobody left in the pews on the bride’s side. Our laughter turned sour, however, when our cousin got hold of some bridal magazines. It wasn’t long before we were fighting over how to lose fat instead of getting ready for a joyous wedding.
Our family fights over losing weight finally reached such a point that Celia and her fiance Frank (who’s no beanpole guy, either) thought they might have to elope because nobody was talking to anybody else. That’s when Celia’s mother, Aunt Marge, got into the act in a great way.
Our aunt consulted with a good friend of hers who operates a bridal shop in town. The dress shop owner said she saw our kind of problem all the time. The best solution, she told our aunt, was to show the bride-to-be how a plus size wedding dress could be the perfect solution to her worries about looking fabulous on her wedding day. Once the bride-to-be was convinced, the bridesmaids would have an easier time choosing gowns as well, she told our aunt.
The shop owned loaned our aunt some catalogs from manufacturers that specialize in plus size bridal attire. Our aunt knew the rest of us wouldn’t show up if it looked like we were going to go another round in the great wedding diet match, so she tricked us. She got us all over to her house by staging a show for party jewelry. While we were drooling over those beautiful sparklers, she sprang the catalogs on us.
Before long, the bride-to-be and her now-reconciled bridesmaids were squealing with delightover the pictures of gorgeous dresses. We got so excited that our aunt had to get out her measuring tape so we could measure each other for one of those fabulous dresses.
The end result was that we all got to choose a gorgeous dress for Celia and Frank’s wedding. Celia herself was one of the most beautiful brides any of us have ever seen, wearing a gown that fitted her perfectly and made her look like a queen. And it all came about because we decided to love ourselves and our bodies for the big, beautiful, fabulous women we are!
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December 29, 2009
A Young Lady Hits The Bottom of the Barrel in Life, Beats Her Depression, Gets Alcohol Therapy for Her Heavy Drinking, and Boosts Her Self Esteem
Brooke was a forty-seven-year-old fashion designer who was tired of feeling depressed everyday of her life and fed up with her careless and excessive drinking behavior. Simply put, she was tired of going through failed relationship after failed relationship due to her immature drinking, she hated the hangovers she experienced on a regular basis, she missed her old enthusiasm for doing the things she liked, she was sick of feeling tired every morning, and she was annoyed with herself for spending her hard-earned money on a useless habit.
Furthermore she hated the fact that she had to go to court for her second DWI, she was bored with her drinking pals, she was irritated with the many times she failed an alcohol test at her workplace, she was fed up with paying for alcohol-related attorney fees, and she was appalled with how physically unfit she was.
In addition to the obvious alcohol-related health predicaments she was experiencing, almost certainly the most regretful part of her drinking behavior was the untrustworthy and deceitful person she had become. In her heart of hearts she knew that she had been less than honest about her drinking behavior to her relatives, friends, and family and she also knew she had been less than honest with herself about the “positive” effects of drinking. Not only this but she rationalized wolfing down two or three drinks before going to social events and she also made excuses for needing one or two drinks as soon as she got up so that she could deal with the “stress” at her place of employment.
Her Depression and Her Excessive and Irresponsible Drinking Result in Important Life Changes
It was clear that that Brooke was sick of putting up with the negative outcomes of her depression and her abusive and hazardous drinking and finally determined that something significant had to change in her life. So she determined that she would abstain from drinking, start focusing on becoming a more healthy person, involve herself in some worthwhile hobbies, develop a new circle of friends, get professional counseling, and start exercising.
Stated simply, Brooke got to a time in her life during which she saw that she hit rock bottom and was now ready to commence the slow and gradual road that leads to health.
One of the ways that Brooke put her “plan” into action was by asking for a transfer at her workplace. When her request was approved, she moved 350 miles away to a new state. If nothing else, this unquestionably made making new pals and separating herself from her old pals easier. Then she phoned a healthcare professional in her new city and made an appointment for a thorough physical and psychological examination.
Brooke Meets With a Healthcare Practitioner About Her Excessive and Hazardous Drinking and Her Depression
After meeting with the physician and taking a number of laboratory tests, it was determined that Brooke had made the transition from alcohol abuse to alcohol addiction and therefore was in need of alcohol detox and alcohol treatment. At this time, the physician made it a point to discuss the various signs of alcoholism, the symptoms of alcoholism, and information about long term effects of alcohol with Brooke.
The healthcare practitioner then told Brooke that it was concluded that she was clinically depressed and in need of therapy for this medical problem.
Brooke Makes up Her Mind to Revitalize Her Body by Drinking Filtered Water, Taking Vitamins, Eating Healthy Foods, Living an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, and Working Out
Due to her enthusiasm for following through with the rehabilitation regimen, after five weeks of residential rehab, Brooke was ready to begin rehab on an outpatient basis. At this point in time, she began working at her new job and over the weeks began building up her body by drinking filtered water, taking vitamins, eating healthy foods, living an alcohol-free lifestyle, and working out.
Brooke also attended to her spiritual yearnings by joining the local Lutheran church and going to regular services.
After roughly four weeks of outpatient therapy during which time she never suffered through an alcohol relapse, Brooke quit going to alcohol rehabilitation and instead began going five times per week to local Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Attending these meetings helped Brooke maintain her alcohol-free style of life, they provided her with the support she sought after, and they served as a persistent reminder of the damaging outcomes that are related to careless and excessive drinking.
After going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings nearly six months Brooke felt that she was ready for a relationship and so she started dating William, a young gentleman she met at church. It clearly amazed Brooke how much more ready she was for a dating relationship now that she had her unhealthy and excessive drinking under control. Indeed it also surprised Brooke how much better life was now that she wasn’t under the control of her abusive and hazardous drinking. Life was now pleasurable and loaded with potential that she could have never longed for or accomplished when she was engaged in hazardous drinking just a few short months ago.
A Success Story That is a Testament to the Relevance of Alcohol Therapy and the Power of Change
Brooke’s success story is evidence of the importance of alcohol rehabilitation and the power of positive thinking. As Brooke reflected on her newfound lofty self concept and motivation for involving herself in worthwhile, healthy activities, she was actually grateful that she decided to do something productive about her abusive and unhealthy drinking rather than giving into her depression and into the lure of her alcoholism. The result: she enjoys her new job responsibilities, she is involved in a caring relationship, her life now has a positive direction, she has more energy now compared with any time in her adult life, and she is in charge of her life rather than letting herself deteriorate under the control of her alcoholism.
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November 14, 2009
A TV Program About Alcoholism Signs and Symptoms Results in Some Troubled and Disappointing Emotions About a Young Lady’s Irresponsible and Hazardous Drinking
Daniel had been engaging in fairly heavy drinking behavior since her junior year in college. Now, eight years later, she drank more than ever. One Saturday night when she was feeling ill, Daniel made up her mind to stay home, loosen up, and watch television.
While seeking to find something to watch that she would find appealing, she at once got involved in a special program about adolescent and young adult drinking issues.
When Normal Alcoholic Signs and Symptoms are Manifested by Alcohol Dependent Individuals
The commenter went over the difference between alcohol dependency and alcohol abuse and then got into the subject of alcoholic symptoms and alcoholism warning signs. When the narrator discussed a person’s alcoholic behavior and some of the more widespread alcoholic signs and symptoms that alcohol addicted people display, Daniel got quite disturbed because it basically seemed as if the speaker was talking directly to her.
After watching the television program, Daniel made a promise to herself that she would telephone her doctor the next business day and make an appointment to discuss her drinking situation.
When the next workday arrived, true to her word, Daniel called her health care professional and made an appointment. While she was waiting for the day of her appointment to arrive, she went on the Internet and did a search for alcoholic symptoms. Especially noteworthy were the following signs or symptoms: increasing stress, important relationship and work-related problems, sneaking extra drinks before social activities, making excuses to drink at virtually every opportunity, and sleep problems.
In a word, since Daniel exhibited all of these symptoms she went into greater detail in her online search and found several websites and blogs that highlighted various alcoholic symptoms and warning signs.
One of the signs that really grabbed her awareness was the following: “Do you ever drink after promising yourself that you won’t?” While Daniel never accepted the fact that she may have a severe drinking problem, after reading about the diverse alcohol addiction warning signs and symptoms, she couldn’t refute the fact that for the past five or six months, she time after time tried but failed at extensively lessening her drinking or stopping entirely.
When Friends and Individuals Pester You by Condemning Your Irresponsible Drinking Behavior
Another alcohol addiction symptom that grabbed her curiosity was the following: “Have relatives pestered you by taking a dim view of your problem drinking?” When Daniel read this she instantly called to mind a recent squabble she had with her aunt about her hazardous drinking behavior. In addition, Daniel openly called to mind a recent disagreement she had with her parents about her excessive drinking behavior. Due to the fact that Daniel truthfully thought that she didn’t have a drinking problem, when people brought up her drinking she obviously got perturbed and annoyed.
A third alcoholism warning sign was the following: “Do you desire a drink when you first awaken in the morning?” Until now, Daniel had been deceiving herself about her drinking behavior. After reading about the aforementioned alcoholism warning symptoms, nonetheless, she knew if she was really forthright with herself that she was facing a serious drinking issue, especially given the fact that she now felt that she needed a drink the first thing in the morning to decrease her tension.
What is more, the next alcoholism symptom really got her thinking about her problem drinking: “Do you drink to sidestep difficulties or worries?” When she thought about her life for a few moments, she grasped the fact that almost in every stressful situation in the past four or five months, she told herself that she needed a drink to help manage the turmoil in her life.
The final alcohol dependency warning sign that made her feel somewhat anxious about her drinking condition was the following: “Has your enthusiasm for life diminished since you started drinking more habitually?” When Daniel read this sign she clearly realized that drinking had become a serious problem in her life because of her lack of energy and also because she stopped pursuing her goals and her dreams.
Conclusion: When Getting Crestfallen Turns Into Something Exciting and Something to Look Forward To
After pondering the significance of all of these hurtful alcoholism symptoms and signs, Daniel at first felt crestfallen. Then something magnificent happened. She reflected on the fact knew that she was going to see her health care provider about her drinking problems and she also realized that she would discuss all of the above alcoholism warning symptoms and signs with her. In fact, for the first time in quite a few months, Daniel frankly felt a sense of hope because she was addressing her drinking difficulties and was finally ready to make the necessary adjustments so that she could recapture the life that was slipping away.
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