September 15, 2009
Signs to look for in troubled relationships
All’s fair in love and war. What does that saying really mean?Are they implying there may be something similar between the two?Now it isn’t for sure that that is what they were trying to say, but there sure are a lot of things that are the same.
The similarities between the two I think are when that love becomes war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war. I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.A couple that used to be in love now is a couple in a constant fight.It is my objective to help bring peace between the two people. And restore that once great relationship.
So what are the signs of trouble? One of the biggest warning signs is communication. Or should I say lack of communication. For any relationship, communication is key.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign. It is a warning sign of trouble. Whether I am doing couples counseling or marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.Because if you are not able to communicate effectively, any small thing can turn into a huge problem. Proper communication helps avoid that.
So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate. One of the biggest keys to communication is listening.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking. But really if you don’t listen well, you don’t really understand each other. So by helping the couple listen better their communication improves greatly.
By recognizing this sign couples can know trouble may be brewing.Now if the couple can spot this problem early in their relationship, they might be able to avoid some serious problems. From my experience the best way to solve problems in a relationship is to avoid them.But if you don’t spot that sign early, the prime way to solve the problem is to learn how to communicate.Sounds basic but what it can do is have a major role in the problem.
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